Thought provoking
http://www.tc.umn.edu/~parkx032/CY-HOAX.html
Excerpt:
Our romantic games would be harmless if everyone knew
that romantic love is a fantasy feeling.
But while still under the influence of romantic illusions,
some people make the life-altering mistake of getting married.
Perhaps we guard against
every form of political or religious mythology,
but what about the most potentially-harmful myth—romantic love?
If we eventually become convinced that romantic love is an illusion
—a web of projected fantasies and artificial feelings—
what do we do next?
We can abandon these cultural delusions and begin to establish
our relationships based on real information about each other
and genuine commitment toward each other.
Reality-based relationships might not have the same emotional high,
but, in the long run, they are much better for us.
Instead of projecting our pre-existing fantasies on others,
we can get to know them as they really are
—and as the persons they are becoming.
The wild, extravagant feeling of being head-over-heels in love
is certainly an enjoyable delusion while that emotional 'high' lasts,
but should we attempt to build relationships on fantasy feelings?
Excerpt:
Our romantic games would be harmless if everyone knew
that romantic love is a fantasy feeling.
But while still under the influence of romantic illusions,
some people make the life-altering mistake of getting married.
Perhaps we guard against
every form of political or religious mythology,
but what about the most potentially-harmful myth—romantic love?
If we eventually become convinced that romantic love is an illusion
—a web of projected fantasies and artificial feelings—
what do we do next?
We can abandon these cultural delusions and begin to establish
our relationships based on real information about each other
and genuine commitment toward each other.
Reality-based relationships might not have the same emotional high,
but, in the long run, they are much better for us.
Instead of projecting our pre-existing fantasies on others,
we can get to know them as they really are
—and as the persons they are becoming.
The wild, extravagant feeling of being head-over-heels in love
is certainly an enjoyable delusion while that emotional 'high' lasts,
but should we attempt to build relationships on fantasy feelings?
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I liked this site. Lots and lots of good common sense here.
http://www.wholefamily.com/aboutyourmarriage/columns/drtobin/advice...
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