Emotional Memory Management

[Mariana]

Summary (To read the whol article, download it clicking on the attached file below.)

We are a collection of memories - that's who we are, what makes up our personality, what controls our behaviors, and what often produces our moods. The good Emotional Memory (EM) is a blessing to us, remembering good times during childhood, our favorite songs/events, and old friends. However, we have all collected bad or often traumatic Emotional Memory (EM) files as well. The goal of Emotional Memory (EM) Management is to control or eliminate the emotional part of those files. If we can do that, our history of bad experiences becomes just that - history. Those files become a record of where we've been and experienced, not something that continues to control our moods and behaviors.
In daily living and especially during times of stress, our memory file system is very important. It is a system that is active every second, works automatically, and can change our mood within two minutes. Our office has presented the above information with the hope that you can lower your stress and live more effectively by controlling your emotional memory files rather than allowing them to control you! Remember - our emotional file system is like our breathing, it will operate on automatic or we can take manual control. Knowing how the system operates allows us more control over our memories and daily lives.

Joseph M. Carver, Ph.D., Psychologist

[jackie]

I WAS JUST TALKING TO SOMEONE WHO WAS EXPRESSING ALL THEY THINK ABOUT FROM ACHILD ON THE BAD MEMORIES IN THEIR LIFE. THIS ARTICLE CLOSES IN ON THE EXACT ANSWERS I WAS LOOKING FOR EXCELLENT

[Administrator]

Hi Jackie, more often than not, our problems are rooted in the way we were raised, and other aspects of every human being's upbringing. For instance, not only the way our parents (or other parent figures) raised us, but also, family values and traditions, cultural values and traditions, each country's ideology, religion, politics, etc.

Just to give you an example, my second husband was Cuban. He had never lived out of Cuba, with all the good things and not so good things every country and culture has, and when we got married (in 1998, he was 36 by then) and he moved to my country it was a big change and a big shock for him to live in a completely different culture,

That had a major impact on him. Plus, a few years later (in 2001) the economy in my country suffered a major collapse and he got deeply depressed and that affected his whole temper. He got depressed, became frustrated and aggressive, started exhibiting his darkest personality traits, something that came from his childhood experiences. It seemed as he was mad at the whole world, but he took it on me.

So, sometimes, daily issues that appear to be a consequence of the current situation has deep roots in other things. Some of them come from many years before, from our upbringing and unresolved issues in our early years of life.