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Well codependancy is a painful visius circle......yep especialy in retrospective after 17 years of a relationship....that has i feel robbed .... robbed by the ignorance of what we were liveing and all the pain that came out o fthe variuos situatio...
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- At 3:55am on April 24, 2009,
pjay said…
- hey brian, just wanted to say how cool your page looks across the top.
i'm pretty clueless when it comes to computers.
are you a graphic artist ?
- At 12:53am on April 3, 2009,
Mariana said… - Welcome Brian!
- At 4:26am on April 2, 2009,
pjay said…
- hi brian, yes, it does seem to begin with the hurt we feel inside.
like having a thorn in our foot, it hurts to walk on it. we can't always put our finger on just where the pain is coming from, but we know it's there.
i remember thumbing through a book in a bookstore one day about 'listening to your body'. it said that the pain is there for a reason, to alert us to the fact that something is not right. that our health might be in danger.
& we can walk (hobble, limp) around like this for year after year after year.
never really knowing the source of our pain. so uncomfortable, in fact, that we often can make those around us just as uncomfortable, unsettling, & even miserable.
give yourself a lot of credit for 'stepping out in faith' & going in this direction.
men do have this tendency to isolate themselves.
you know...i can handle this....broad shoulders & all.
but i think it takes a real man to admit when he is wrong. this is not weakness...it takes a lot of courage to do that !
to those we have hurt, all we can do is to offer to make amends. not just saying sorry...but choosing to live differently.
this is the challenge of life, as all that we know is what we were brought up with.
through mainly our parents & family, we have come to construct in our minds just what 'love' is supposed to look like.
of course, this can often be an incorrect & sometimes completely distorted picture. & because we lived this way for so long....with these misconceptions, wrong notions, & unhealthy ways of relating.....it's also going to take some time to 'unlearn' some of these bad habits & to learn some new ones.
and you will begin to find that peace, when you can begin letting go of a lot of those old ideas (especially of pride...which we men are willing to die holding onto !!)
i don't mind sharing this way. if what you have to say is of a more personal nature, you can send me a private message. all the best !!
- At 3:30am on April 1, 2009,
pjay said…
- hello brian. hope you will find this site & the many source materials very useful to you & your journey.
- At 9:55pm on March 31, 2009,
Nancy said…
- welcome :D
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