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TEN ATTITUDES THAT PREVENT YOU FROM LISTENING
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The Male Victim

The Male Victim
Roger Eldridge


The vast majority of recorded incidents of domestic violence are of men on women. Society, although aware of the male victim, treats him as a joke. In reality he is a man in fear, a man in isolation, a man stigmatised as weak. Why? Because he does not conform to the stereotypical male image.

In law, a male victim faces two obstacles; firstly to prove he is a victim, and secondly, to ensure that his children are protected and do not become the new victims. Men very often remain in an abusive relationship for the sake and protection of their children.

Most men react by staying silent. Often this silence is encouraged by factors such as fear of ridicule and, the realisation that it is unlikely his partner will be evicted. Even when a man has proved he is the victim it seems his only course of action is to leave the home. He is then separated from his children and often experiences difficulty in obtaining realistic and regular contact with them. He is in fact treated as the perpetrator rather than the victim.

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At 9:52am on December 11, 2008, Mariana said…
Thanks for your comment, Joe. I told them it was "their loss" not mine ;)
At 3:27pm on September 28, 2008, JoeinTX said…
At 11:42am on September 28, 2008, Administrator said…


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At 10:19am on September 21, 2008, JoeinTX said…
Some Guidelines for Healing Your Relationship

Start by communicating. Some couples fight by yelling, others by not talking at all ("the silent treatment"). Whatever your technique, allow for a "cooling off" period, and then express your feelings. Simply take responsibility for letting your partner know what you want, and try not to judge the wants expressed by your partner.

Communication of feelings is necessary in all important relationships for, contrary to what many believe, nobody can reasonably be expected to read your mind, no matter how long you have been together!

Approach with empathy. Put yourself in the other person's shoes, so to speak, understanding that he or she has emotional wounds and is hurting as well.

Learn to listen, especially to the other person's feelings. Take turns talking (you may each need time limits) and listen without interrupting often.

Seek compromise. The goal is to resolve your differences by reaching an understanding that allows for both people to come out ahead.

Work on forgiveness. This does not mean excusing abusive behavior or staying with an abuser. Forgiving means letting-go of a need to hurt back. Anger only accumulates and harms us, emotionally and physically. Forgiveness is a gift to yourself as well as to your relationship. Remember, too, that you may forgive people in your past (without taking them back).

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