You know, I DO believe some people can change. I have seen some abusers realize they were abusing others because they didn't know there were healthier ways to develop good relatioships. Abusers, in most cases, have a lot of inner work to do, and that is beyond our control. We can offer them help to see what they are doing wrong, but if they choose not see or if they choose not to change, we can't do much about.
But this does not mean an abuser cannot change. What is important for us is to see if they are able and willing to change or not, and to realize that their decision to change is not under our control regardless of how much we can help them :)
You brought up a very interesting subject about hiding or not hiding our feelings. I guess it will all depend on the situation. I only "hide" - so to speak- my feelings when the consequences of expressing them out loud would only cause me more trouble. I will post a discussion on this soon. Thanks a lot for your insight, I learn a lot from you and all those who contribute with their thoughts and reflections :)
Amy:
Diabetic people tend to lose feeling in the lower limbs, in particular in the feet. Their podiatrist will usually test their feet for feeling, often by pressing a needle on the foot. So, perhaps he felt nothing, because he was a diabetic. I ...
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I'm Mariana's cousin and live in California. Thanks for adding me as a friend!
But this does not mean an abuser cannot change. What is important for us is to see if they are able and willing to change or not, and to realize that their decision to change is not under our control regardless of how much we can help them :)
http://abusoemocional.ning.com/forum/topics/to-hide-or-not-to-hide-our
I'm absolutely positive you will make it possible to let your inner light shine brightly very soon!