hey, i sometimes read this one weekly newspaper column by the 'advise goddess' , mainly because i'm curious about different perspectives on the dynamics of relationships.
anyways, her response to this guy included a suggested book reading by dr. robert glover called 'no more mr. nice guy'.
without going into the whole article, she inferred that maybe this guys problems stemmed from trying too hard to be a people pleaser, being too afraid of his own flaws, & having the bad habit of repressin…
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Added by pjay on June 19, 2009 at 4:05am —
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"Todo lo que hoy vemos empezó como un sueño"
Cuando lleguen a ti pensamientos como “es sólo un sueño” que actúen en tu contra para detenerte en el camino hacia la conquista del tuyo recuerda que
todo lo que ves empezó como un sueño. Tú misma persona es el resultado de un sueño. Un día tus padres soñaron con tener un hijo y naciste tú.
La computadora que usas, el Internet, la energía eléctrica, Planeta de Mujeres, la ropa que traes puesta, la cama…
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Added by Karina Guerra on June 13, 2009 at 12:30am —
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Forgive the hurts (by HigherAwareness.com)
"Forgiveness will never fail to free you." -- Jerrold Mundis
How do we forgive when we’re angry and hurt?
As a first step, we can be willing to truly feel our anger and hurt. Honouring our feelings by being fully present with them helps to release the feelings themselves.
And it helps to remember that people only hurt others when they themselves are in pain. When we can recognize the other person’s suffering, our heart can open in comp…
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Added by Administrator on June 9, 2009 at 11:23am —
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Encontré este excelente video en You Tube, se los recomiendo!
Les transcribo el texto de referencia...
"El uso que hacemos del lenguaje es una forma de comportamiento. Y lo tenemos bien aprendido. Los niños, desde pequeños, incluso antes de saber contar o narrar algo, son capaces, de un modo particular, de pedir las cosas. En esta CAVERNA, reflexionamos sobre la descortesía y la violencia verbal, sobre el daño o el placer que puede suponer para las personas utilizar una expresión en vez de otr…
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Added by Administrator on May 25, 2009 at 11:05am —
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This is to inform all of you I have banned this Lavone Pearson person who was inviting everyone to chat on an adult webcam... weirdos...!
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Added by Mariana on May 21, 2009 at 8:36pm —
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Hay varias herramientas que las víctimas de abuso puede utilizar para romper el ciclo del abuso emocional y detener a un abusador.
El Dr. George Simon sugiere las siguientes estrategias...
- No aceptar excusas ante conductas inadecuadas
- Juzgar las acciones en lugar de las intenciones o promesas
- Responsabilizar al abusador por lo que hace y dice a través de una comunicación directa (haga preguntas directas y exija respuestas directas)
- No dejarse engañar por las maniobras de distracción o…
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Added by Mariana on May 1, 2009 at 7:40pm —
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Dr. George Simon has written a series of empowerment tools to protect ourselves from abusers.
The last one he posted was about "Personal Empowerment: Knowing Yourself and Your Strengths, Weaknesses and Needs"
At some point it says something I share with him, knowledge is power... check the whole thread here:
http://counsellingresource.com/features/2009/04/30/empowerment-tools-knowing-yourself/…
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Added by Mariana on April 30, 2009 at 9:25pm —
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What do we focus on?
If we keep focusing on the abuser, then we leave little time and energy to focus on ourselves as victims of abuse.
Abusers know exactly what to say to make the victim feel responsible for something they are not. They aim to confuse people so they can keep control of the victim and the whole situation.
If we focus on them, we might fall in this place where we will spend our entire lives speaking about the abuser, which is exactly what abusers want. We are empowering…
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Added by Mariana on April 27, 2009 at 11:00am —
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Les doy la bienvenida a todos los miembros nuevos de habla hispana. Si bien muchas de las discusiones del foro y muchos de los blogs están escritos en inglés, no duden en iniciar discusiones o blogs en español. Espero que encuentren aquí mucha información útil. Cualquier inquietud que tengan, no duden en consultarme.
Les recomiendo comenzar con la lectura de los artículos del Dr. Carver, excelente material. Los artículos están en español e inglés en el grupo del Dr. Carver,…
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Added by Mariana on April 23, 2009 at 1:00am —
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Some time ago, I read a book called "Getting to Yes" by Fisher, Ury, and Patton. It's basically a book on negotiation techniques used for business purposes, but it helped me a lot in my personal life.
I am a firm believer of the things I stand for. Hence, I tend to defend my views till the bitter end. My approach to solving problems was rather fight than flight. On top of it, when I was born (November the 20th, 1962), my mom asked an "astrologist" to draw my birth chart and they found that I ha…
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Added by Mariana on April 20, 2009 at 1:00pm —
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Added by Administrator on April 14, 2009 at 10:25pm —
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I recommend Facing Codependence and Facing Love Addiction both by Pia Mellody. They helped me immensely during different stages of my journey
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Added by Nancy on April 4, 2009 at 9:46am —
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There are several films that show the problem of emotional abuse. Here are some of them, you can see the trailers on YouTube or their respective main siltes, and some of these films are available for free (full film) at a website called
http://www.peli…
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Added by Mariana on April 3, 2009 at 2:09pm —
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English Version - (Versión en español a continuación de la versión en inglés)

Scammers use the Internet to scam people. Sociopaths, con artists, etc., abound on-line these days. Their modus operandi is simple, they appear lovely and genuine to the eyes of others, while they are tru…
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Added by Mariana on March 31, 2009 at 11:45am —
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A book I highly recommend!

Dr. George Simon is the leading expert on manipulators and other distu…
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Added by Mariana on March 26, 2009 at 11:30pm —
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Se podría decir que el Eneagrama es un camino de autoconocimiento. Este sistema es solo un medio, una herramienta, que puede ser utilizado por cualquier persona con deseos de conocerse y mejorar, independientemente de sus creencias religiosas, ya que no es una doctrina ni está alineado con alguna doctrina, religión o dogma.
Los orígenes del eneagrama son antiquísimos y poco…
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Added by Abelia on February 25, 2009 at 2:12am —
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La Falta de autorrespeto:
En su libro ‘El Niño Feliz’, Dorothy Corkille Briggs nos da ciertas pautas para comprender los mecanismos que utiliza una persona para defenderse en la vida, y cual puede ser el origen de estos mecanismos.
“En sus esfuerzos por agradarse a sí mismo, todo niño se esfuerza por obtener aprobación y trabaja incansablemente para desarrollar habilidades que eliminen sus incapacidades.…
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Added by Abelia on February 25, 2009 at 2:07am —
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por Leonardo Boff
En tiempos de crisis como el nuestro buscamos fuentes de inspiración allí donde se encuentren Una de ellas es la ecología interior. Para evaluar su importancia debemos concienciarnos de que nuestra relación con la Tierra, por lo menos en los últimos siglos, está basada en falsas premisas éticas y espirituales: antropocent…
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Added by Abelia on February 25, 2009 at 2:02am —
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9 Ways That Humor Heals By Therese J. Borchard
February 17, 2009
Of all my tools to combat depression and negativity, humor is by far the most fun. And just like mastering the craft of writing, I’m finding that the longer I practice laughing at life—and especially its frustra…
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Added by Administrator on February 18, 2009 at 6:41pm —
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13 Signs of Burnout and How To Help You Avoid It
So how do you know if you, a loved one, or someone who reports to you is suffering from burnout? Here are the early warning signs.
Chronic fatigue - exhaustion, tiredness, a sense of being physically run down…
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Added by Administrator on February 15, 2009 at 5:30pm —
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