Helpful Books

[Nancy]

I recommend Facing Codependence and Facing Love Addiction both by Pia Mellody. They helped me immensely during different stages of my journey

[Mariana]

Fanny,
Keep knocking doors and seek legal advice also on these sites.
http://www.pccyfs.org/
http://www.pcya.org/pcya/site/default.asp
http://www.dpw.state.pa.us/About/OCYF/

[Mariana]

Columbia County Human Services
15 Perry Ave # A
Bloomsburg, PA 17815
[phone]‎
[phone]‎
[phone]‎
[phone]‎
columbiapa.org

Children and Youth Services
Voice: 570-389-5650
Emergency after-hours: 570-387-0212
Fax: [phone]

[Mariana]

Hi Fanny, I sorry to hear about your current situation. You're right that you have to gather strength in order to fight them back. The most important thing here is the emotional wellbeing of your son and yours, as well.

Check on line (see the links below) and email people asking for help or advice regarding your problem. You might find sound advice and help from a local social worker from a Child Protective Services agency close to you.

Hope this helps a bit:
http://www.alleghenycounty.us/dhs/childprotection.aspx

[Nancy]

dear fanny

i'm terribly sorry about your situation

the thing about emotional abuse is that the victim over the years is reduced to an emotional wreck and in front of others can be made to look like she's disturbed and unreliable whilst the abuser would be a professional conman and would seem calm, reasonable and sincere. it happens often unfortunately. it happened to me when we tried marriage counselling. the professionals always ended up assuming that i was unbalanced and that he was a patient man suffering my tantrums!!

i found the strength by reading as much information about emotional abuse as i could manage!! it was loads of reading. finally i was deeply convinced that:
1. i was being abused
2. it was not my fault
3. i was not stupid, weak or crazy
4. i am stronger than anyone ever thought including myself

from then on i could face my husband on even grounds. no longer the victim. no longer an emotional wreck. and in public i became as cool as he can be because i was backed with all the information i had read. but it is a long interior journey with many ups and downs. a bit like snakes and ladders. but you can get there. we are survivors

God be with you

[fanny cruz]

I am in a very difficult time in my life. I just lost custody of my son.The judge felt his father was better suited to provide care.My lawyer did not defend me properly and i was portraid as someone im not. The father was an emotional abuser and still is. i need to find the strenth i need to fight this uphill battle and i know it sarts with me.

[Nancy]

welcome :)

[Charlotte]

Kwel, thanks a bunch, Nancy!

[Nancy]

thanks to you for finding and posting all her books! :D they're a goldmine

[Mariana]

[Mariana]

Thanks a lot for the info, Nancy!